Timing and our Expectations
Christmas can be a time of mixed emotions. I personally think there is too much pressure on families to have 'the perfect Christmas.' In my view, there is no such thing as the 'the perfect Christmas.' Christmas is a time for family and friends and when it comes to family, everybody celebrates in their own way.I spend some of Christmas reflecting on the year and for me, it can usually be bittersweet. There have been good times and some difficult periods and transitions which have helped shape me as a person. For some of us, it can be a stressful time for many reasons. Some people are lonely over the Christmas period due to bereavement or maybe they are caring for a partner who is sick, etc. so there are constant daily challenges that seem to have more poignancy over the Christmas period. When I think about this time of year, I count my blessings.
I may not be where I want to be sometimes but I am thankful for the good things in my life, family and friends and when I look at what I do have, I feel grateful. Those feelings of gratitude make me happy. For how far we've come, we deserve to give ourselves credit. Whether you have managed to keep yourself going whilst battling mental health issues, or if you have managed to stay strong after ending a relationship, you may feel like you are not in the mood to celebrate anything much. What I would say to you is you should celebrate the fact that your resilience and determination has brought you to this point and that is something to be proud of. If you are one step closer to becoming the person you want to be, then you have achieved a lot more than you realise. That is worth celebrating in itself! Reflecting on the journey so far and looking ahead to the adventures on the horizon is something that has keeps me motivated and excited about the fun we could have doing the things that make us happy.
Sometimes timing is everything. If you feel that things aren't working out the way they should, perhaps there is no 'should.' The fact that you are making progress is enough. You are doing the best you can. Your best is good enough. What can you do each day to bring you closer to achieving your goal? If your life situation is not making you happy, you can begin to take steps to change it in the simplest ways possible, Making a phone call, sending an email, applying for that job, may be the start of better things to come, Taking action is the key towards changing your situation. Working everyday to create the life you want is setting you up for success. Positive habits daily practiced can lead to big changes. When you bring in the new year, let your mindset be one that enables you to take the steps you need everyday to achieve your goals. Don't tell yourself 'I want to achieve this goal.' Ask yourself 'How do I go about achieving this goal?' What can you do everyday that turns your dream into reality? Do that and you may just find yourself enjoying the journey to achieve your goals even more than achieving the actual goal!
Wishing you a happy and healthy 2019!
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