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Building emotional resilience

Friday 5th November 2021

Sometimes life has a way of (repeatedly) knocking you down. If I had a pound for every single time I've wanted to give up, I would be a multi-millionaire (twice over!)

There are no short-cuts to developing resilience unfortunately.

It is the trials and hardships we go through in life that actually strengthen our resilience and the ability to handle whatever life throws at us.

Since the beginning of the pandemic, I have struggled.

BOY have I struggled!

Did I want to give up?

Absolutely, without a doubt!

I am one of those people who just keeps going (like the terminator!) This hasn't always been the case though. It took years of practice to get to the point where I can get back up again and keep pushing no matter what.

So - what might help to keep you going in times of challenges and setbacks?

One day at a time:

Focus on what you can actually achieve in day. Write down one task to do if that's all you can manage and focus on it and nothing else. If you get it done, great! If not, you did what you could and that is something.

Surrender to what is:

Let go and let chaos flow. The harder we try to control and organise things, the worse it can become. Go with the flow of things and not against it. Where the energy takes you, work with it and not against it.

Accept what you cannot change and focus on what you can change:

What cannot be changed, cannot be changed. Focus on what is possible and do what you can. When we learn to accept what is, we are giving ourselves space to transform what pain we feel into healing. Just be and say yes to the present moment.

Believe that everything conspires in favour of your highest good:

Now this is a tricky one. It is VERY HARD to believe that everything is working out for the best when everything around you seems to be falling apart. The truth is, even at the worst of times, if you can learn to see the glass half full, you automatically adapt the difficulties you are experiencing into positives. You are already half way there!

Growth is seldom easy and is usually accompanied with some kind of pain and discomfort but without it, we don't become stronger and more resilient.

Some questions to help you gain perspective again:

What is the blessing in the situation?

How could it help other people?

Have I learned anything about myself in this process?

How can I apply this learning to new situations?

When we ask the right questions, the right answers will come!

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