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How to cope with suffering...

Sunday 4th September 2022

Life seems to be constant suffering sometimes. We can sugarcoat this all we want but sometimes if we have to just say:

'I am absolutely drained, fed up and worn out. I can't take anymore.'

We are all human beings and at the moment, many of us are going through hell what with the energy crisis and the cost of living increases. I wouldn't be surprised if screaming into a pillow at the top of your lungs felt good. If you are also struggling with mental health, it can so quickly become too much and anxiety can often go through the roof and everything seems much worse than what it was previously.

Doing simple things like choosing what to wear and what to make for lunch can seem like a monumental task when living in the haze of anxiety. OCD anxiety is no exception as obsessions and compulsions tend to framework our daily lives more frequently when anxiety becomes too overwhelming.

Since the pandemic, many of us have had our lives change irrevocably forever, perhaps you have lost a loved one to covid, maybe you were made redundant from a steady job or maybe you are currently worrying about how to put food on the table for your kids. It is horrendous stress, much of which could have been avoided if our current government had perhaps made better decisions for the wellbeing of it's people.

Our only option in fact is to work with what is. 'What if' and 'maybe' are words that seem to belong in the past and the future. Dealing with 'what is' happening right now is where our power lies because the present moment is all we have.

We can only take action when we are anchored in the present moment. The past and the future only exist as mental projections of our consciousness. When we accept what is, whether it is good or bad (which has it's origins in our perception), we eliminate a huge element of suffering by seeing reality for what it is.

When we say 'Things shouldn't be like this' maybe, it shouldn't be like this, quite rightly so, but in order for it to change, we have to change it and we can only change it in the here and now. Taking action is the only way we can empower ourselves on the road towards true change.

What small thing can you do today to make things a little bit better?

What small thing can you do today that can make things easier to manage tomorrow?

What small thing can you do today that will move you closer towards the goal you wish to accomplish next week, next year or maybe years beyond?

What small thing can you do today to help you prioritise your own self-care?

Is the life you're currently living in alignment with your true values and beliefs? If not, how might you begin to change this so you can begin living a life closer to your true beliefs?

Put aside some time to check in with yourself to see if you are living according to what you need and want for yourself. When we do this on a regular basis, we can correct any detours we may have mistakenly taken and get back on the right track again, whatever that may be.

We may not be able to avoid suffering but we can take the energy of this current state and transform it into something positive.

What is this hardship enabling me to learn about myself?

What skills and experiences have I gained from having to deal with this? (Resilience, strength, new friends and a support network, etc.)

What is it currently teaching me about myself and how could I apply it to the goal I want to achieve?

The obstacle is the way (a great book to read by Ryan Holiday). It's about taking what life gives you and turning it to your advantage. It may seem impossible and that nothing is happening but remember the drip, drip, drip of water eventually wears away the stone.

Consistency and positive habits repeated daily is the key to lasting change. Just make sure that each step you take is in the direction you wish to go!

Be kind to yourself.

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